Matt preached in service on Wednesday night here in Berlin. You can listen to his message online here (ggwo.de). But I just want to write down some notes that I took during his message and share them. He spoke on Matthew 18:21-28 in light of Pastor Schaller's last message at EuroCon about forgiveness.
Forgiveness is a choice. Forgiveness doesn't give back what you have lost.
We cannot go around humanity and say that we are never hurt because we forgive.
We are real human beings with real hurt and real pain. Forgiveness isn't pretending that nothing happened, but it is choosing to live in love. I have to choose to live in love.
Choosing not to live in love puts us in prison in our minds.
Thinking about ourselves brings us into prison.
Three things happen when we live in prison:
1- We have no capacity to receive from God
2- We have no capacity for relationships
3- We filter everything through our situation
Years can go by while we are stuck in this mental prison where we don't make a choice for forgiveness. I have been forgiven so much. I have no right not to forgive.
80% of the time when someone is offended the offender has no idea it even took place.
When we live in un-forgiveness we refuse the voice of God.
God shakes things in our lives to get rid of things that shouldn't be there. When God shakes our lives we can hang on to the things that need to be shaken out because we are not willing to hear from God. God's kingdom can never be shaken, and we have to receive from that unshakeable kingdom.
We live in grace and receive the Word of God and it enables us to forgive. We cannot trick ourselves and pretend that we forgive someone when we haven't, it will come out later. Man cannot trick his own heart. There is no middle ground, we either forgive from our heart or we do not.